The Secret To Developing Unshakeable Confidence.

Ps 139:14 – I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made, marvelous are thy works and that my soul knoweth right well.

The most important discovery we can make as individuals, is the discovery of our very own selves. When you discover your value and divine purpose on earth, everything changes for good. The singular reason why many struggle with a lack of self confidence or low self esteem is because they have a false view of themselves and thus feel inadequate or incomplete. For many years in my life, I also struggled with low self esteem. I grew up as a chubby girl from a low income family in Nigeria and sadly, I allowed my outward circumstances determine my self worth. I constantly compared myself to society and media definition of beauty and success. This eroded my confidence making it difficult for me to interact with others or speak in public. All that changed when I discovered this powerful truth:

THE KEY TO UNSHAKEABLE CONFIDENCE, IS UNCONDITIONALY LOVING AND ACCEPTING YOURSELF JUST AS YOU ARE NOW, AND ALSO ACCEPTING GOD’S LOVE FOR YOU!

Understand that you are God’s highest form of creation. You are unique and one of a kind! There’s only one YOU in the entire universe; no one speaks, laughs, or does things exactly like you. Your uniqueness is really what makes you special so stop comparing yourself to others! Know that you are complete in God and even with your so-called imperfections, you are the perfect person for your assignment in life.

Col 2:10 – And ye are complete in him which is the head of all principality and power.

We must learn to live from the inside out; by that I mean, we must program our inward man with the right thougths and words, rather than let outward circumstances and others determine how we feel. While things like proper preparation and a nice oufit can help us feel more confident, we must develop confidence on the inside.

Practice speaking the word of God and complimenting yourself out loud. As you repeat this regulary the words become impressed in your subconsious mind, and you will automatically become confident.

I see you developing unshakeable confidence to achieve your goals as you put these to practice in Jesus name!

Please share your thougths and other ideas you may have about confidence building, so that other readers can benefit as well.

God bless you!

Why You Must Be Joyful – No Matter What!

Is it possible to stay joyful despite the challenges we experience in life? Do the word’s and actions of other’s, determine how joyful we should be? Do we have the power within us, to choose our response to anything we may experience in life? The scripture below provides an answer:

Hab 3:17-18: Even though the fig trees have no blossoms and there are no grapes on the vines; even though the olive crop fails, and the fields lie empty and barren; even if the flocks die in the fields and the cattle barns are empty; YET, I WILL REJOICE IN THE LORD! I WILL BE JOYFUL IN THE GOD OF MY SALVATION.(NLT)

Despite the adverse circumstances enumerated above, the prophet made a decision to remain joyful no matter what.

Indeed, we also have the power to choose our response to any circumstance we face in life!

  • Here is why it is extremely important to stay joyful-

I. The lack of Joy makes one prone to psychosomatic illnesses – ( physical illness caused by mental or emotional stress) These may manifest as headaches, ulcers, high blood pressure, eating disorders and other dangerous health conditions.

II. We need Joy to enjoy everyday life. – Is 51:11- Therefore the reedemed of the Lord shall return and come with singing into zion and everlasting joy shall be upon their head; they shall obtain gladness and joy and sorrow and mourning shall flee away.

III. We need Joy to attract the presence and power of God into our situation. Is 12: 3 – Therefore with joy shall ye draw water out of the wells of salvation.

IV. We need Joy to maintain healthy relationships. No one enjoys being around a constantly negative and unhappy person.

V. Joyful and positive people experience more favor, promotion, health and opportunities in life.

The importance of Joy in our lives cannot be over-emphasized. Below are Six proven strategies to maintain joy in your life always.

1.Make a firm decision up-front to maintain a joyful attitude: You are responsible for your reaction to everything in life. This was a difficult pill for me to swallow because I was in the habit of blaming others or my circumstances for the way I felt. All that changed when I discovered that, nothing in life holds any meaning except the meaning I give to it. This meant that I could be going through “hell” and yet choose to react positively. This truly changed my life. You too can DECIDE today to be joyful no matter what life throws at you.

2. Consciously choose positive thoughts and words: The way you feel at any point, is determined by the thoughts in your mind and the words you speak. Your subconscious mind relies on the pictures in your mind and the words you speak, to determine what to manifest in your life. If you constantly think of fearful and hurtful things and speak same, I guarantee that you will never feel joyful. Consciously choose your thoughts and words by replacing the negatives with positives. Avoid toxic people and places that tend to trigger negative feelings in you.

3.Use Faith-filled affirmations- One of the most powerful ways to reprogram yourself to stay joyful, is to declare the word of God out loud. I make a practice of standing in front of my mirror and speaking the word of God over my life. I declare words such as – “I am full of joy and peace”, ” The joy of the Lord is my strength”, “God is working out all things for my good”, to mention a few. Repeat this practice until you feel the words have taken root in you. You will be amazed at the transformation in your life.

Eat. Rest. Sleep – No matter how anointed you are, if you fail to take care of yourself by eating properly and resting, you will not feel great. Even God almighty rested on the seventh day! Taking good care of yourself, by eating healthy, exercising and drinking plenty of water will contribute to your well being.

5. Practice Gratitude: The human mind tends to dwell more on things which aren’t going so well, rather than those which are going well. We can break that cycle by developing an attitude of gratitude. Learn to be thankful for the seemingly little things in life such as fresh air, flowers, friends, family etc. Spend your first 5 minutes each day just being thankful to God for anything and everything. This is one of the most powerful ways to maintain joy in your life.

6.Spend time with God daily: This is the most important of all because where all else fails, God cannot fail. Spending time daily in prayers and study of the word of God restores joy and peace like nothing else can. It is impossible to experience true joy and satisfaction in our lives, without a relationship with God. You can imagine what happens to a branch that is cut off from a tree. It wont be long before the leaves on that branch wither and the branch dries up. This is exactly what happens when we are disconnected from our source – God. If you are yet to have a relationship with God, you can do so NOW by inviting Jesus christ into your life as your Lord and saviour. He will forgive your sins and fill you with his holy spirit. Only then will you experience joy unspeakable; full of glory!

God’s desire for us is to have joy to the full!

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God loves you!

Do yourself a favour; FORGIVE!

Mathew 6:14 – 15 -” For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you; but if you forgive not men their tresspasses, neither will your Father forgive your tresspasses.”

Do you think God knew how cruel, insensitive and wicked people can be, when he gave the instructions above? Ofcourse he did! I know you may have been deeply hurt and probably have justifiable reasons to hold a grudge, but here is why you should forgive without delay:

Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die. Have you noticed how your body system reacts when you see or think of someone who has hurt you? It makes you bitter, steals your joy and health and keeps the person constantly on your mind. Unforgiveness is poisonous and it is a demonic tool designed to stop you from receiving a breakthrough. The most dangerous thing about unforgiveness is that it hinders your prayers. God will not accept prayers or offerings where there is unforgiveness.

Futhermore, YOU ARE THE ONE IT HURTS; NOT THE PERSON THAT HAS HURT YOU. When you reach out to someone in forgiveness, it doesn’t mean you approve of what he or she has done. It doesn’t mean that you want them to do it again. Reaching out in forgiveness means that you value the love God has for that person and you want to be a channel through which that love will flow to them. Many have been afflicted with illnesses such as cancer,high blood pressure, depression,mental disorders due to unforgiveness. Sometimes, all it takes to receive healing, is to let go of all the hurt and bitterness.

Another reason you should forgive immediately is, when you continue being bitter and plan for revenge, you put yourself in God’s position. He says in Romans 12:19 ‘” Vengeance is mine”, vengeance is not yours! Unforgiveness is actually an emotional take-over of authority from God. It is ascending to God’s throne to make yourself a judge. Can you contend with God, and go scot- free? You are not the one who should dictate consequences for those who offended you! It is not your job to make sure they feel the appropriate amount of guilt for what they have done! God will do it for you.

Unforgiveness also hinders you from moving forward and receiving new opportunities in life. “When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and go free.”-Katherine Ponder.

The devil is on a mission to stop you from getting God’s best for your life. He will often use people you care about, to get to you. However if you make up your mind to forgive easily, you become unstoppable. When people hurt you, its like they are throwing a big chain on your path to tie you down. Refusing to forgive them is like taking the other end of the chain and tying yourself to them. You cannot move ahead, you stay tied down.

Forgiveness is the virtue of the brave. It is for people who are destined for greatness; those who have decided that no matter what anyone says or does, they will not become negative or bitter. Mother Theresa said “People are often unreasonable and self- centered , forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives, be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you, be honest anyway. If you find happiness people may be jealous, be happy anyway. The good you do today, may be forgotten tommorow; do good anyway. Give the world your best and it may never be enough; give your best anyway. For you see, in the end it is between YOU and GOD. It was never between YOU and THEM.” The bible encourages us to do everything as unto the Lord. (Col 3:23)

I encourage you today, please forgive for your own sake. It is not always easy to do this, so you must ask the Holy Spirit to help you. Pour out your heart to the Lord and tell him exactly how you feel. He will bring you comfort and release the grace to forgive. In the same vein you must also forgive yourself. Many have no problems forgiving others but they constantly beat themselves up over past mistakes or failures. Forgiving yourself is just as important as forgiving others, for no one can give, what they do not have.

Please share your experiences with us in the comment section below and do let us know what you have decided to let go.

God bless you richly.

You Are Not Your Body – Discover the Power Within You!

Job 32:8 – There is a Spirit in man; and the inspiration of the Almighty giveth them understanding.(KJV)

Recently, the issue of racism has been on the front burner since the death of George Floyd in America. This has further exposed the identity crisis being experienced by many across the globe. Many do not really know who they are. This crisis can only be attributed to one thing – rejection of God and his word.

Our opening scripture clearly reveals that man is Spirit. The physical body is merely a container which enables man to function here on earth. This means that you are neither black nor white but, Spirit. You merely live in a black or white body. This lack of understanding concerning the true nature of man based on the word of God, is the root of all racism, human slavery, bigotry, hatred and division among mankind. Man has rejected the truth of God’s word in Genesis 1, which states that we are all made in God’s image and likeness. We are all one with God; whether living in black or white bodies.

Until we become aware that we are all precious Spirit beings, there can be no end to racism or all forms of division. We must escape the ignorance perpetuated by the world system to keep man in ignorance concerning his true nature. Cease to define yourself and others by external features such as race or class. However, in order to see the divine in others, we must first see it in ourselves.

I had an epiphany regarding this on the 5th of February 2017, when my mother passed away right before me. We were chatting excitedly in our vehicle while on a trip, when we suddenly had a fatal road accident. My mum passed away a few moments after the crash. As I carried her lifeless body on my laps, it dawned on me that my “real” mum, was the spirit which had departed. Her body was merely a covering or rather a suit, which her spirit wore to be able to operate in this world. Her physical body could no longer speak, laugh, love, counsel or hug me, like she used to. As the bible puts it in Jam 2:26 – For as the BODY without the SPIRIT is dead..

At that moment, I received this life changing insight – I AM NOT MY BODY! I had spent most of my life mainly focusing on my body and external circumstances rather than my inner being, fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God. This realization completely changed my life. Indeed our body is important and we must care for it because it houses the Holy Spirit and us here on earth. However, our Spirit is much more important. The bible says in Prov 18:14 – The Spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity, but a wounded spirit who can bear. This means that if your Spirit is weak, everything about your life will be affected. However if your body is weak or disabled in any way but your spirit remains strong, you can still go on to do great things in life. In order to rise above hate, racism and to truly love and accept others we must become aware of our true nature.

Spend quality time building up your Spirit by studying the word of God and dwelling only on positive thoughts. You will be amazed at how stronger, confident, joyful and succesful you will become. By recognizing who we truly are, we can make the world a better place. Black lives matter and so do ALL lives, in the eyes of God!

God bless you!

Please do share your thoughts in the comments below or contact me via Facebook @comforterstouch.

( Further study – Luk 8:55, 23:46, 24:39, Jn 3:6, Rom 8:16, 1cor 14:14, 15:44)

How to REALLY Know What You’re Worth.

How do we really determine our worth in life? Is it by how much money we have in our bank accounts or by the number of private jets, business empires, luxury cars, real estate or connections we have? Is it by our looks, social media followers, popularity or place of residence? These are some of the common indicators the average person considers,when determining their own value or that of others. How then is it, that some of the “celebrities” who seem to have it all, are still hooked on hard drugs and even suicidal?

The truth is, as wonderful as these indicators are, it is entirely wrong to let any thing external determine your value. This was such a powerful and transformational insight received from the words of Jesus in Luke 12:15 :

Then he said, Beware! Guard against every kind of greed. LIFE IS NOT MEASURED BY HOW MUCH YOU OWN. (NLT)

For several years in my life, I felt inferior around people who were richer and would often pass by opportunities and relationships which I felt were “too good” for me. I was born into a low income family in Nigeria, where I had little access to the basic necessities of life such as food, shelter and clothing. My parents worked hard to provide for our family and often resorted to borrowing money from relatives and friends to pay my school fees. Sure enough, I soon began to let my outward conditions define my self worth and erode my self confidence.

However, things changed when I surrendered my life to Jesus christ and discovered from the bible just how valuable I am! I believe God almigthy created the world and everything in it. In Gen 1:26-30, it is clear that I am made in God’s image and likeness. The value of a product is often determined by its manufacturer. For instance, you are likely to value your Rolex watch more than a watch bought from a thrift store. In the same vein, the value upon my life is determined by my maker- God almighty! To further confirm this, God sacrificed his one and only son Jesus christ for my salvation! Think of this; would God pay such a huge price for someone who has no worth?

One of the greatest destroyers of human potential is a low self esteem or a dependence on the wrong things for validation. People who let peripheral things such as money, fame, beauty etc determine their worth are often left shattered when these things are no more. The recent Corona virus outbreak further exposes how unreliable the world system is. Can you imagine the fate of a person whose worth is determine by his stake on wall street?

The key to developing unshakeable self worth and confidence is to let God and his word determine your worth. I am passionate about helping others achieve success by developing a healthy sense of worth and finding value within themselves. God has helped me acheive this through our Non- profit organization (www.ndozie.org) where we continue to empower under-served women and girls in Nigeria with information and resources which can help them fulfill their potentials. I hope this post also helps as well!

5 ways to overcome ANY life challenge. (Including impact of COVID 19).

Life is comprised of series of challenges and difficulties. You are either experiencing one right now; have just come out of one, or will soon be experiencing one. What makes the difference however, is how we respond. We can either choose to respond with faith or with fear. We can either overcome the difficulty, or be overcome by it. Either way, the choice is ours. I will be sharing 5 proven principles, that guaratee victory in every situation. While it is important to pay attention to professional advice regarding contemporary and health issues, more important is what happens within us. It is crucial to develop within ourselves, those attitudes, behaviours and belief systems that enable us face lifes challenges with a “winning mentality”. Some people lose their battles even before it begins. For instance, many people will die from the fear of COVID 19, rather than the virus itself. Here they are:

Engage in spiritual exercise: While building your physical and mental muscles may have some benefits in difficult times, it is much more important to build your spiritual muscles. Spiritual activities such as praying in the spirit, bible study, fasting, obedience to the word are key in gaining victory over adverse circumstances. You must realise that you are a spirit and live in a body. If your spirit man is weak, your life is susceptible to attacks, but if your spirit man is strong you are capable of witstanding anything that comes against you.

Guard your heart: Faith comes by hearing but so does fear. Consciously choose what information you let into your heart. Dwelling on CNN (Um, I actualy mean, Constant Negative News, not the cable news network) for too long, only sets you up for destruction. Prov 4:23- ” Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life.

Eliminate negative thoughts: Thoughts are things. Negative thoughts have a tremendous impact on our lives. We clothe everything around us with our most dominant thoughts. Rather than dwell on thoughts of despair, failure, death and pain, we can replace them with positive and uplifting thoughts. This does not mean living in denial of the situation but rather choosing to shift our perspective and seeing it as a life lesson. Prov 23:7: For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.

Make positive confessions: Our words can either build us up or tear us down. In challenging times, locate bible scriptures that address your situation and declare them aloud in faith. In Genesis we are told of how God created the world with his words. As his children, made in his image, we also have the power to create what we want or don’t want with our words.

Choose to be Joyful, no matter what!: One of the most difficult things to do in difficult times is to stay joyful but that is exactly what you must do, if you desire God’s intervention. Understand that joy is actually a spiritual weapon that attracts supernatural attention and makes the devil mad. Just when he thinks he has you cornered ,you discomfit him with your singing dancing and excitement. Staying joyful in the midst of difficulties is the hallmark of overcomers and the panacea to depression, anxiety and stress.

Put these 5 principles to work and you will testify.

I would really like to know which of these principles resonated with you so please drop your comments below. Stay blessed!

3 reasons every child of God is GUARANTEED to succeed.

I am so excited to share some insights the Holy spirit revealed to me from the bible. I trust you will also be richly blessed by it. First, I want to start by answering the question – Who is a child of God?

A child of God is NOT someone who attends church, is born into a christian family or participates in religious activities. As great as these things are, they don’t make you a child of God. A child of God is a person who has repented from sins, accepted Jesus christ as Lord and savior and receives the Holy Spirit. He is a person whose will is completely surrendered to God and who now lives according to the word of God. Every child of God is guranteed success, however many still struggle due to ignorance. In God’s kingdom, your depth of revelation of God’s word is directly proportional to your level of success and dominion. Knowledge establishes you but the lack of it leads to destruction.

Here are 3 reasons why every child of God must succeed:

  1. It was commanded by God at the begining of creation. – When you study the account of creation in Genesis 1, we see how God “said” and everything came to be. He commanded and there was light, water, earth and every living thing. In the same way the bible states in Genesis 1:27-28 – ” So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God BLESSED them, and God SAID unto them, BE fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth and have dominion... If everything God spoke about at creation came to be, then every child of God is blessed, fruitful, able to multiply, replenish and have dominion. Halleluyah! Note that this blessing, was for all mankind, until Adam sinned and lost his glorious inheritance. Thankfully, Jesus christ died on the cross to reconcile man to God and restore all the blessing’s to those who receive him. This is confirmed in John 15:5 – ” I am the vine, ye are the branches. He that abideth in me and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit; for without me, ye can do nothing. Every child of God who stays connected to christ is “GUARANTEED” fruitfulness in all things. We must however follow God’s principles of hardwork, honesty and patience in our dealings. You simply cannot fail or be disadvantaged in life anymore. Halleluyah!
  2. The second reason why a child of God must succeed is because God’s promises cannot be broken. God promised to bless Abraham and make him a blessing (Gen 12: 2-3) According to the bible, everyone who has received Jesus is also a partaker of Abraham’s blessings. Whatever God says he will do, consider it done. Numbers 23:19 – God is not a man that he should lie; neither the son of man , that he should repent: hath he said and shall he not do it or hath he spoken and shall he not make it good? If you are a child of God you ought to be excited about this because with God’s blessing in your life, prosperity is certain. The best part is that no one can curse a person whom God has blessed. (Num 23:20)
  3. The third reason children of God must succeed is they belong to a different kingdom and operate by a different set of rules. (Col 1:13) The economy and system of this world does not determine their success in life. 1 John 5: 4 says – ” Whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world. God’s will for his children is to prosper and be in health even as their soul prospereth. (3 John 2). If you’re a child of God and you’re broke, sick, discouraged or struggling in any area, I charge you to arise today with this knowledge. You are made in God’s image and you have his blessing upon your life. Just like your father did at creation, begin to speak his words into your life and watch things turn around! If you are yet to receive Jesus christ into your life, please say this simple prayer: Heavenly father, I come to you in the name of Jesus christ, I believe in my heart that Jesus christ is the son of God and that he died for my sins. I believe that you raised him from the dead for my justification. Lord Jesus,please come into my heart right now. I receive you today as my personal Lord and saviour and I give God the glory. Amen. Congrats you are now a child of God! Please get a bible and join a church, where you can grow in the Lord. Please share comments, testimonies in the section below.