Do yourself a favour; FORGIVE!

Mathew 6:14 – 15 -” For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you; but if you forgive not men their tresspasses, neither will your Father forgive your tresspasses.”

Do you think God knew how cruel, insensitive and wicked people can be, when he gave the instructions above? Ofcourse he did! I know you may have been deeply hurt and probably have justifiable reasons to hold a grudge, but here is why you should forgive without delay:

Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die. Have you noticed how your body system reacts when you see or think of someone who has hurt you? It makes you bitter, steals your joy and health and keeps the person constantly on your mind. Unforgiveness is poisonous and it is a demonic tool designed to stop you from receiving a breakthrough. The most dangerous thing about unforgiveness is that it hinders your prayers. God will not accept prayers or offerings where there is unforgiveness.

Futhermore, YOU ARE THE ONE IT HURTS; NOT THE PERSON THAT HAS HURT YOU. When you reach out to someone in forgiveness, it doesn’t mean you approve of what he or she has done. It doesn’t mean that you want them to do it again. Reaching out in forgiveness means that you value the love God has for that person and you want to be a channel through which that love will flow to them. Many have been afflicted with illnesses such as cancer,high blood pressure, depression,mental disorders due to unforgiveness. Sometimes, all it takes to receive healing, is to let go of all the hurt and bitterness.

Another reason you should forgive immediately is, when you continue being bitter and plan for revenge, you put yourself in God’s position. He says in Romans 12:19 ‘” Vengeance is mine”, vengeance is not yours! Unforgiveness is actually an emotional take-over of authority from God. It is ascending to God’s throne to make yourself a judge. Can you contend with God, and go scot- free? You are not the one who should dictate consequences for those who offended you! It is not your job to make sure they feel the appropriate amount of guilt for what they have done! God will do it for you.

Unforgiveness also hinders you from moving forward and receiving new opportunities in life. “When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and go free.”-Katherine Ponder.

The devil is on a mission to stop you from getting God’s best for your life. He will often use people you care about, to get to you. However if you make up your mind to forgive easily, you become unstoppable. When people hurt you, its like they are throwing a big chain on your path to tie you down. Refusing to forgive them is like taking the other end of the chain and tying yourself to them. You cannot move ahead, you stay tied down.

Forgiveness is the virtue of the brave. It is for people who are destined for greatness; those who have decided that no matter what anyone says or does, they will not become negative or bitter. Mother Theresa said “People are often unreasonable and self- centered , forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives, be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you, be honest anyway. If you find happiness people may be jealous, be happy anyway. The good you do today, may be forgotten tommorow; do good anyway. Give the world your best and it may never be enough; give your best anyway. For you see, in the end it is between YOU and GOD. It was never between YOU and THEM.” The bible encourages us to do everything as unto the Lord. (Col 3:23)

I encourage you today, please forgive for your own sake. It is not always easy to do this, so you must ask the Holy Spirit to help you. Pour out your heart to the Lord and tell him exactly how you feel. He will bring you comfort and release the grace to forgive. In the same vein you must also forgive yourself. Many have no problems forgiving others but they constantly beat themselves up over past mistakes or failures. Forgiving yourself is just as important as forgiving others, for no one can give, what they do not have.

Please share your experiences with us in the comment section below and do let us know what you have decided to let go.

God bless you richly.

A life changing Journey. (2)

The death of a loved one is usualy quite painful especially when it happens unexpectedly. My mother’s life ended abruptly so, I never got the chance to hear any last wishes or say goodbye.  We were right in the middle of an interesting conversation when the accident occured and this made the entire experience rather traumatic. (See part 1 for details). As I reflect on the journey that changed my life and family completely, it is amazing the inner strength and peace, the Comforter has given us.

Undoubtedly, I felt the deep grief, despair, confusion and hopelesssness that comes with loss but the Comforter ensured that I was not utterly overwhelmed and consumed by it. There are still days when I wake up sad and gloomy because I miss my mother so much but I have learnt, that I am never alone.

You are probably wondering who the “Comforter” is. He is – THE HOLY SPIRIT OF GOD.                                                          Being a christian, I have read about the Holy spirit from the bible and listened to some teachings about his role in the life of a believer. The book of John 14:16 declares: I will pray the father and he shall give you another COMFORTER, that he may abide with you forever.

I however deeply experienced his role as a comforter, after my mother’s demise. It was through this experience, that I understood the word of God in Isiah 43:2 which says: When thou passeth through the waters I will be with thee;and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee; when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.

God never promised us a storm free life! We will go through waters, through floods, through fires but he promises to be with us through it all.

For some, their storm may be the loss of a loved one, a job, a relationship, abuse, poverty etc. However if it is submitted to the Lord, he will turn it around for good.

My personal experience confirms that it is indeed possible to receive comfort from the Holy spirit and recover from the most traumatic and difficult events. In subsequent posts, I will be sharing some ways a person can prepare to receive comfort from the Holy Spirit. First, we must find out from the bible, who the Holy spirit is; for how can we receive comfort from a person we know nothing about?

Join me next week as we get to know more about the Comforter.

A life changing Journey. (1)

It was a sunday morning, the 5th of February, 2017. I was to embark on a trip from Umuahia to Enugu, South-East Nigeria, with my parents and two kids. My mother in her usual vibrant manner, arranged all the bags and food items we needed in her vehicle and urged us to get ready to leave in good time.

She and I had stayed up late the previous night, to pick out clothes, head ties, jewelries and other accesories for the occasion. (You know how ladies love to dress up!). I remember teasing her, when she also picked out a pair of sun glasses ,which she wanted to rock at the event. My mother was an exceptional woman, loving, hardworking, God fearing, passionate and virtuous. She was the pillar of our family and a great woman leader. I looked up to her for almost everything.

Well, we all got into the vehicle and began chatting happily. My two kids were also excited to be travelling with their grand parents, whom they are extremely fond of. The trip from Umuahia to Enugu was to last for less than 3 hours.

We had driven for about 45 minutes on the expressway, when suddenly our vehicle lost control at a bad spot on the road. The vehicle somersaulted into a ditch by the side of the road. By- standers rushed to the scene and helped turn the car over, to enable us get out. I looked around frantically as I got out; my father, two children and the driver came out of the vehicle with a few scratches. “Hope mum is fine”, I wondered, as she was being helped out of the car. She could not stand and was muttering under her breath. I immediately climbed up the ditch, to flag down a vehicle to convey to a nearby clinic. Carrying her on my laps, I prayed fervently as a kind stranger, drove us to the nearest health centre we could find. Unfortunately, she could not be revived. My beloved mother passed away right before my eyes!

Can you imagine the utter shock, grief, disbelief, confusion and intense pain I felt at that moment? It was like my whole world had come crashing down. Shortly after, something unusual began happening to me. I discovered that a strength which was beyond human, a peace that passess understanding, a calmness that could not be explained, suddenly enveloped me.

Most people expected me to totally break down because of the horror I had witnessed.

How could anyone be calm, after being involved in an accident that could have taken their own life; heard the agonising cries of two beloved children as the vehicle somersaulted; saw an aged dad struggle to survive and watched a lovely mother pass away so suddenly???

There was only one explanation…..

“THE COMFORTERS TOUCH”.

Join me next week as I share more about the comforter touch in my life and what he can do in yours also.