Why You Must Be Joyful – No Matter What!

Is it possible to stay joyful despite the challenges we experience in life? Do the word’s and actions of other’s, determine how joyful we should be? Do we have the power within us, to choose our response to anything we may experience in life? The scripture below provides an answer:

Hab 3:17-18: Even though the fig trees have no blossoms and there are no grapes on the vines; even though the olive crop fails, and the fields lie empty and barren; even if the flocks die in the fields and the cattle barns are empty; YET, I WILL REJOICE IN THE LORD! I WILL BE JOYFUL IN THE GOD OF MY SALVATION.(NLT)

Despite the adverse circumstances enumerated above, the prophet made a decision to remain joyful no matter what.

Indeed, we also have the power to choose our response to any circumstance we face in life!

  • Here is why it is extremely important to stay joyful-

I. The lack of Joy makes one prone to psychosomatic illnesses – ( physical illness caused by mental or emotional stress) These may manifest as headaches, ulcers, high blood pressure, eating disorders and other dangerous health conditions.

II. We need Joy to enjoy everyday life. – Is 51:11- Therefore the reedemed of the Lord shall return and come with singing into zion and everlasting joy shall be upon their head; they shall obtain gladness and joy and sorrow and mourning shall flee away.

III. We need Joy to attract the presence and power of God into our situation. Is 12: 3 – Therefore with joy shall ye draw water out of the wells of salvation.

IV. We need Joy to maintain healthy relationships. No one enjoys being around a constantly negative and unhappy person.

V. Joyful and positive people experience more favor, promotion, health and opportunities in life.

The importance of Joy in our lives cannot be over-emphasized. Below are Six proven strategies to maintain joy in your life always.

1.Make a firm decision up-front to maintain a joyful attitude: You are responsible for your reaction to everything in life. This was a difficult pill for me to swallow because I was in the habit of blaming others or my circumstances for the way I felt. All that changed when I discovered that, nothing in life holds any meaning except the meaning I give to it. This meant that I could be going through “hell” and yet choose to react positively. This truly changed my life. You too can DECIDE today to be joyful no matter what life throws at you.

2. Consciously choose positive thoughts and words: The way you feel at any point, is determined by the thoughts in your mind and the words you speak. Your subconscious mind relies on the pictures in your mind and the words you speak, to determine what to manifest in your life. If you constantly think of fearful and hurtful things and speak same, I guarantee that you will never feel joyful. Consciously choose your thoughts and words by replacing the negatives with positives. Avoid toxic people and places that tend to trigger negative feelings in you.

3.Use Faith-filled affirmations- One of the most powerful ways to reprogram yourself to stay joyful, is to declare the word of God out loud. I make a practice of standing in front of my mirror and speaking the word of God over my life. I declare words such as – “I am full of joy and peace”, ” The joy of the Lord is my strength”, “God is working out all things for my good”, to mention a few. Repeat this practice until you feel the words have taken root in you. You will be amazed at the transformation in your life.

Eat. Rest. Sleep – No matter how anointed you are, if you fail to take care of yourself by eating properly and resting, you will not feel great. Even God almighty rested on the seventh day! Taking good care of yourself, by eating healthy, exercising and drinking plenty of water will contribute to your well being.

5. Practice Gratitude: The human mind tends to dwell more on things which aren’t going so well, rather than those which are going well. We can break that cycle by developing an attitude of gratitude. Learn to be thankful for the seemingly little things in life such as fresh air, flowers, friends, family etc. Spend your first 5 minutes each day just being thankful to God for anything and everything. This is one of the most powerful ways to maintain joy in your life.

6.Spend time with God daily: This is the most important of all because where all else fails, God cannot fail. Spending time daily in prayers and study of the word of God restores joy and peace like nothing else can. It is impossible to experience true joy and satisfaction in our lives, without a relationship with God. You can imagine what happens to a branch that is cut off from a tree. It wont be long before the leaves on that branch wither and the branch dries up. This is exactly what happens when we are disconnected from our source – God. If you are yet to have a relationship with God, you can do so NOW by inviting Jesus christ into your life as your Lord and saviour. He will forgive your sins and fill you with his holy spirit. Only then will you experience joy unspeakable; full of glory!

God’s desire for us is to have joy to the full!

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God loves you!

8 Simple ways to overcome the pain of loss.

Life can be challenging. We are sometimes faced with some situations that cause us so much pain that we are tempted to give up. How do we cope when we lose someone we cherish and love deeply? Be it a family member, pet or even a relationship, it is never easy. The truth is, no one will ever truly understand how you feel but the Almighty God does.

Ps 34:18 – The Lord is close to the broken hearted, he rescues those whose Spirits are crushed. (NLT)

After the tragic loss of my mother two years ago, I felt completely devastated and was not sure how to cope. However the Lord led me through his Spirit to do certain things that have put me on the road to total recovery.  I trust God to do the same for you. (Though this article focuses on coping with the death of a loved one, it is also helpful in dealing with other forms of loss.)

1. Ask the Holy Spirit for help : It may seem obvious but it is easy to become  consumed by your pain, that you forget the Holy Spirit is there to bring comfort. He alone can reach deep into your heart and heal the wound, strengthen and give you the courage to move on. This is so important because many have become depressed and utterly fed up with life because they have tried to carry the burdens on their own. People may offer words of encouragement, which is fine, but I can tell you from my experience that mere words, do little to ease the pain. Take some time to pour out your heart to the Lord. Tell him exactly how you feel and how you need his help. You will be amazed at what he will do. Note, one can only receive help from the Holy Spirit if he is born again. If you are yet to receive Jesus Christ as your Lord, I encourage you to do so now.

Isiah 61:2-3 – He has sent me to tell those who mourn that the time of the Lord’s favour has come and with it the day of God’s anger against their enemies. To all who mourn in Israel he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. In their righteousness they will be like great oaks that the Lord has planted for his own glory. (NLT)

2. Spend time in prayers and study of the bible:

Jude 1:20 – But ye beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost.(KJV)

Studying the bible and praying may be difficult when you suffer loss. However it is the most important thing you need during this period. If you find it difficult to concentrate, I suggest you invest in an audio bible and messages that will lift your soul. I recommend Archbishop Benson Idahosa’s teaching on the “Benefits of death”. It will give you a good perspective on the subject and make it easier to deal with this inevitable occurence of life. It is available on you tube. You should also build yourself up by praying in the Holy ghost often.

3. Listen to Uplifting music:

Eph 5:19 : Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs; singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord. (KJV)

  • Good music can be helpful during this period, particulary praise and worship songs. Dont give room for depression by being in a dull enviroment. Praise and worship invites the presence of God into your situation.

4. Do not dwell on the past:

Isiah 43:18-19 – Remember not the former things, neither consider things of old. Behold I will do a new thing,now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

I know this may seem impossible but it must be done, if you are to recover. Whilst we should always cherish the memories of our loved ones, overtly dwelling on pictures, videos or materials that remind us of them can make the recovery process slower. I suggest you give yourself time to accept the situation and heal first before you dwell on those.

5. Take it “One day at a time”:

I Pet 5:7 – Casting all your cares upon him for he careth for you.

If you try to comprehend every detail regarding how to cope without your loved one all at once, I guarantee you will end up overwhelmed. Whilst you should plan for important things like the funeral, finances, mortgages etc. everything should be broken down into manageable activities each day. Ask God to help you not to worry about tommorow. Seek professional counseling if you think you need it.

6. Eat. Rest. Sleep:

Ps 127:2 – It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows; for he giveth his beloved sleep.

You may not feel like doing any of these during this period but you need to stay energised to face the days ahead. It is important to eat healthy and drink a lot of water. Sleep is also needed to calm your nerves.

7. Surround yourself with people who can cheer you up:

Prov 27:17 – Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. (KJV)

When we feel sad, we most likely want to be left alone. While it is alright to spend some time alone to reflect, locking yourself away from others for a long period of time can be harmful. The devil knows you are most vulnerable at this time and he may begin to make destructive suggestions to you. Avoid people who may make you feel worse about your situation. Spend time with Godly people who can speak positively to you. Resorting to alchohol, drugs, immorality and the likes, CANNOT erase the pain. The momentary pleasure they give soon fades away and you are left feeling worse. Only the Holy Spirit can turn your pain to a blessing.

8. Give yourself time:

Rom 8:28 – For we know that ALL things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose. (KJV)

The healing process may be slow and difficult especialy if you lost someone you deeply love. However, I encourage you to first accept the reality of what has happened. Also refuse to be consumed by guilt. Some people may they should have done something to prevent the death from occuring. Even if this were true, please forgive yourself. If you fail to do so, you will never recover. I also felt guilty after I lost my mother in a car accident. I felt I should have given her better first aid to save her life. I struggled with this until I asked the Lord for help. He healed me and helped me understand that even without my input he could have still delivered my mother if he wanted to do so.

No one and nothing can replace your loved one but be open to receive the new oppotunities God will bring your way.

Please if you have personal experiences or other helpful tips kindly share  in the comment section below. You just might be helping a soul!

God bless you.

Do yourself a favour; FORGIVE!

Mathew 6:14 – 15 -” For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you; but if you forgive not men their tresspasses, neither will your Father forgive your tresspasses.”

Do you think God knew how cruel, insensitive and wicked people can be, when he gave the instructions above? Ofcourse he did! I know you may have been deeply hurt and probably have justifiable reasons to hold a grudge, but here is why you should forgive without delay:

Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die. Have you noticed how your body system reacts when you see or think of someone who has hurt you? It makes you bitter, steals your joy and health and keeps the person constantly on your mind. Unforgiveness is poisonous and it is a demonic tool designed to stop you from receiving a breakthrough. The most dangerous thing about unforgiveness is that it hinders your prayers. God will not accept prayers or offerings where there is unforgiveness.

Futhermore, YOU ARE THE ONE IT HURTS; NOT THE PERSON THAT HAS HURT YOU. When you reach out to someone in forgiveness, it doesn’t mean you approve of what he or she has done. It doesn’t mean that you want them to do it again. Reaching out in forgiveness means that you value the love God has for that person and you want to be a channel through which that love will flow to them. Many have been afflicted with illnesses such as cancer,high blood pressure, depression,mental disorders due to unforgiveness. Sometimes, all it takes to receive healing, is to let go of all the hurt and bitterness.

Another reason you should forgive immediately is, when you continue being bitter and plan for revenge, you put yourself in God’s position. He says in Romans 12:19 ‘” Vengeance is mine”, vengeance is not yours! Unforgiveness is actually an emotional take-over of authority from God. It is ascending to God’s throne to make yourself a judge. Can you contend with God, and go scot- free? You are not the one who should dictate consequences for those who offended you! It is not your job to make sure they feel the appropriate amount of guilt for what they have done! God will do it for you.

Unforgiveness also hinders you from moving forward and receiving new opportunities in life. “When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and go free.”-Katherine Ponder.

The devil is on a mission to stop you from getting God’s best for your life. He will often use people you care about, to get to you. However if you make up your mind to forgive easily, you become unstoppable. When people hurt you, its like they are throwing a big chain on your path to tie you down. Refusing to forgive them is like taking the other end of the chain and tying yourself to them. You cannot move ahead, you stay tied down.

Forgiveness is the virtue of the brave. It is for people who are destined for greatness; those who have decided that no matter what anyone says or does, they will not become negative or bitter. Mother Theresa said “People are often unreasonable and self- centered , forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives, be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you, be honest anyway. If you find happiness people may be jealous, be happy anyway. The good you do today, may be forgotten tommorow; do good anyway. Give the world your best and it may never be enough; give your best anyway. For you see, in the end it is between YOU and GOD. It was never between YOU and THEM.” The bible encourages us to do everything as unto the Lord. (Col 3:23)

I encourage you today, please forgive for your own sake. It is not always easy to do this, so you must ask the Holy Spirit to help you. Pour out your heart to the Lord and tell him exactly how you feel. He will bring you comfort and release the grace to forgive. In the same vein you must also forgive yourself. Many have no problems forgiving others but they constantly beat themselves up over past mistakes or failures. Forgiving yourself is just as important as forgiving others, for no one can give, what they do not have.

Please share your experiences with us in the comment section below and do let us know what you have decided to let go.

God bless you richly.

You Are Not Your Body – Discover the Power Within You!

Job 32:8 – There is a Spirit in man; and the inspiration of the Almighty giveth them understanding.(KJV)

Recently, the issue of racism has been on the front burner since the death of George Floyd in America. This has further exposed the identity crisis being experienced by many across the globe. Many do not really know who they are. This crisis can only be attributed to one thing – rejection of God and his word.

Our opening scripture clearly reveals that man is Spirit. The physical body is merely a container which enables man to function here on earth. This means that you are neither black nor white but, Spirit. You merely live in a black or white body. This lack of understanding concerning the true nature of man based on the word of God, is the root of all racism, human slavery, bigotry, hatred and division among mankind. Man has rejected the truth of God’s word in Genesis 1, which states that we are all made in God’s image and likeness. We are all one with God; whether living in black or white bodies.

Until we become aware that we are all precious Spirit beings, there can be no end to racism or all forms of division. We must escape the ignorance perpetuated by the world system to keep man in ignorance concerning his true nature. Cease to define yourself and others by external features such as race or class. However, in order to see the divine in others, we must first see it in ourselves.

I had an epiphany regarding this on the 5th of February 2017, when my mother passed away right before me. We were chatting excitedly in our vehicle while on a trip, when we suddenly had a fatal road accident. My mum passed away a few moments after the crash. As I carried her lifeless body on my laps, it dawned on me that my “real” mum, was the spirit which had departed. Her body was merely a covering or rather a suit, which her spirit wore to be able to operate in this world. Her physical body could no longer speak, laugh, love, counsel or hug me, like she used to. As the bible puts it in Jam 2:26 – For as the BODY without the SPIRIT is dead..

At that moment, I received this life changing insight – I AM NOT MY BODY! I had spent most of my life mainly focusing on my body and external circumstances rather than my inner being, fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God. This realization completely changed my life. Indeed our body is important and we must care for it because it houses the Holy Spirit and us here on earth. However, our Spirit is much more important. The bible says in Prov 18:14 – The Spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity, but a wounded spirit who can bear. This means that if your Spirit is weak, everything about your life will be affected. However if your body is weak or disabled in any way but your spirit remains strong, you can still go on to do great things in life. In order to rise above hate, racism and to truly love and accept others we must become aware of our true nature.

Spend quality time building up your Spirit by studying the word of God and dwelling only on positive thoughts. You will be amazed at how stronger, confident, joyful and succesful you will become. By recognizing who we truly are, we can make the world a better place. Black lives matter and so do ALL lives, in the eyes of God!

God bless you!

Please do share your thoughts in the comments below or contact me via Facebook @comforterstouch.

( Further study – Luk 8:55, 23:46, 24:39, Jn 3:6, Rom 8:16, 1cor 14:14, 15:44)

5 ways to overcome ANY life challenge. (Including impact of COVID 19).

Life is comprised of series of challenges and difficulties. You are either experiencing one right now; have just come out of one, or will soon be experiencing one. What makes the difference however, is how we respond. We can either choose to respond with faith or with fear. We can either overcome the difficulty, or be overcome by it. Either way, the choice is ours. I will be sharing 5 proven principles, that guaratee victory in every situation. While it is important to pay attention to professional advice regarding contemporary and health issues, more important is what happens within us. It is crucial to develop within ourselves, those attitudes, behaviours and belief systems that enable us face lifes challenges with a “winning mentality”. Some people lose their battles even before it begins. For instance, many people will die from the fear of COVID 19, rather than the virus itself. Here they are:

Engage in spiritual exercise: While building your physical and mental muscles may have some benefits in difficult times, it is much more important to build your spiritual muscles. Spiritual activities such as praying in the spirit, bible study, fasting, obedience to the word are key in gaining victory over adverse circumstances. You must realise that you are a spirit and live in a body. If your spirit man is weak, your life is susceptible to attacks, but if your spirit man is strong you are capable of witstanding anything that comes against you.

Guard your heart: Faith comes by hearing but so does fear. Consciously choose what information you let into your heart. Dwelling on CNN (Um, I actualy mean, Constant Negative News, not the cable news network) for too long, only sets you up for destruction. Prov 4:23- ” Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life.

Eliminate negative thoughts: Thoughts are things. Negative thoughts have a tremendous impact on our lives. We clothe everything around us with our most dominant thoughts. Rather than dwell on thoughts of despair, failure, death and pain, we can replace them with positive and uplifting thoughts. This does not mean living in denial of the situation but rather choosing to shift our perspective and seeing it as a life lesson. Prov 23:7: For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.

Make positive confessions: Our words can either build us up or tear us down. In challenging times, locate bible scriptures that address your situation and declare them aloud in faith. In Genesis we are told of how God created the world with his words. As his children, made in his image, we also have the power to create what we want or don’t want with our words.

Choose to be Joyful, no matter what!: One of the most difficult things to do in difficult times is to stay joyful but that is exactly what you must do, if you desire God’s intervention. Understand that joy is actually a spiritual weapon that attracts supernatural attention and makes the devil mad. Just when he thinks he has you cornered ,you discomfit him with your singing dancing and excitement. Staying joyful in the midst of difficulties is the hallmark of overcomers and the panacea to depression, anxiety and stress.

Put these 5 principles to work and you will testify.

I would really like to know which of these principles resonated with you so please drop your comments below. Stay blessed!

A life changing Journey. (2)

The death of a loved one is usualy quite painful especially when it happens unexpectedly. My mother’s life ended abruptly so, I never got the chance to hear any last wishes or say goodbye.  We were right in the middle of an interesting conversation when the accident occured and this made the entire experience rather traumatic. (See part 1 for details). As I reflect on the journey that changed my life and family completely, it is amazing the inner strength and peace, the Comforter has given us.

Undoubtedly, I felt the deep grief, despair, confusion and hopelesssness that comes with loss but the Comforter ensured that I was not utterly overwhelmed and consumed by it. There are still days when I wake up sad and gloomy because I miss my mother so much but I have learnt, that I am never alone.

You are probably wondering who the “Comforter” is. He is – THE HOLY SPIRIT OF GOD.                                                          Being a christian, I have read about the Holy spirit from the bible and listened to some teachings about his role in the life of a believer. The book of John 14:16 declares: I will pray the father and he shall give you another COMFORTER, that he may abide with you forever.

I however deeply experienced his role as a comforter, after my mother’s demise. It was through this experience, that I understood the word of God in Isiah 43:2 which says: When thou passeth through the waters I will be with thee;and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee; when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.

God never promised us a storm free life! We will go through waters, through floods, through fires but he promises to be with us through it all.

For some, their storm may be the loss of a loved one, a job, a relationship, abuse, poverty etc. However if it is submitted to the Lord, he will turn it around for good.

My personal experience confirms that it is indeed possible to receive comfort from the Holy spirit and recover from the most traumatic and difficult events. In subsequent posts, I will be sharing some ways a person can prepare to receive comfort from the Holy Spirit. First, we must find out from the bible, who the Holy spirit is; for how can we receive comfort from a person we know nothing about?

Join me next week as we get to know more about the Comforter.

A life changing Journey. (1)

It was a sunday morning, the 5th of February, 2017. I was to embark on a trip from Umuahia to Enugu, South-East Nigeria, with my parents and two kids. My mother in her usual vibrant manner, arranged all the bags and food items we needed in her vehicle and urged us to get ready to leave in good time.

She and I had stayed up late the previous night, to pick out clothes, head ties, jewelries and other accesories for the occasion. (You know how ladies love to dress up!). I remember teasing her, when she also picked out a pair of sun glasses ,which she wanted to rock at the event. My mother was an exceptional woman, loving, hardworking, God fearing, passionate and virtuous. She was the pillar of our family and a great woman leader. I looked up to her for almost everything.

Well, we all got into the vehicle and began chatting happily. My two kids were also excited to be travelling with their grand parents, whom they are extremely fond of. The trip from Umuahia to Enugu was to last for less than 3 hours.

We had driven for about 45 minutes on the expressway, when suddenly our vehicle lost control at a bad spot on the road. The vehicle somersaulted into a ditch by the side of the road. By- standers rushed to the scene and helped turn the car over, to enable us get out. I looked around frantically as I got out; my father, two children and the driver came out of the vehicle with a few scratches. “Hope mum is fine”, I wondered, as she was being helped out of the car. She could not stand and was muttering under her breath. I immediately climbed up the ditch, to flag down a vehicle to convey to a nearby clinic. Carrying her on my laps, I prayed fervently as a kind stranger, drove us to the nearest health centre we could find. Unfortunately, she could not be revived. My beloved mother passed away right before my eyes!

Can you imagine the utter shock, grief, disbelief, confusion and intense pain I felt at that moment? It was like my whole world had come crashing down. Shortly after, something unusual began happening to me. I discovered that a strength which was beyond human, a peace that passess understanding, a calmness that could not be explained, suddenly enveloped me.

Most people expected me to totally break down because of the horror I had witnessed.

How could anyone be calm, after being involved in an accident that could have taken their own life; heard the agonising cries of two beloved children as the vehicle somersaulted; saw an aged dad struggle to survive and watched a lovely mother pass away so suddenly???

There was only one explanation…..

“THE COMFORTERS TOUCH”.

Join me next week as I share more about the comforter touch in my life and what he can do in yours also.