The Secret To Developing Unshakeable Confidence.

Ps 139:14 – I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made, marvelous are thy works and that my soul knoweth right well.

The most important discovery we can make as individuals, is the discovery of our very own selves. When you discover your value and divine purpose on earth, everything changes for good. The singular reason why many struggle with a lack of self confidence or low self esteem is because they have a false view of themselves and thus feel inadequate or incomplete. For many years in my life, I also struggled with low self esteem. I grew up as a chubby girl from a low income family in Nigeria and sadly, I allowed my outward circumstances determine my self worth. I constantly compared myself to society and media definition of beauty and success. This eroded my confidence making it difficult for me to interact with others or speak in public. All that changed when I discovered this powerful truth:

THE KEY TO UNSHAKEABLE CONFIDENCE, IS UNCONDITIONALY LOVING AND ACCEPTING YOURSELF JUST AS YOU ARE NOW, AND ALSO ACCEPTING GOD’S LOVE FOR YOU!

Understand that you are God’s highest form of creation. You are unique and one of a kind! There’s only one YOU in the entire universe; no one speaks, laughs, or does things exactly like you. Your uniqueness is really what makes you special so stop comparing yourself to others! Know that you are complete in God and even with your so-called imperfections, you are the perfect person for your assignment in life.

Col 2:10 – And ye are complete in him which is the head of all principality and power.

We must learn to live from the inside out; by that I mean, we must program our inward man with the right thougths and words, rather than let outward circumstances and others determine how we feel. While things like proper preparation and a nice oufit can help us feel more confident, we must develop confidence on the inside.

Practice speaking the word of God and complimenting yourself out loud. As you repeat this regulary the words become impressed in your subconsious mind, and you will automatically become confident.

I see you developing unshakeable confidence to achieve your goals as you put these to practice in Jesus name!

Please share your thougths and other ideas you may have about confidence building, so that other readers can benefit as well.

God bless you!

Why You Must Be Joyful – No Matter What!

Is it possible to stay joyful despite the challenges we experience in life? Do the word’s and actions of other’s, determine how joyful we should be? Do we have the power within us, to choose our response to anything we may experience in life? The scripture below provides an answer:

Hab 3:17-18: Even though the fig trees have no blossoms and there are no grapes on the vines; even though the olive crop fails, and the fields lie empty and barren; even if the flocks die in the fields and the cattle barns are empty; YET, I WILL REJOICE IN THE LORD! I WILL BE JOYFUL IN THE GOD OF MY SALVATION.(NLT)

Despite the adverse circumstances enumerated above, the prophet made a decision to remain joyful no matter what.

Indeed, we also have the power to choose our response to any circumstance we face in life!

  • Here is why it is extremely important to stay joyful-

I. The lack of Joy makes one prone to psychosomatic illnesses – ( physical illness caused by mental or emotional stress) These may manifest as headaches, ulcers, high blood pressure, eating disorders and other dangerous health conditions.

II. We need Joy to enjoy everyday life. – Is 51:11- Therefore the reedemed of the Lord shall return and come with singing into zion and everlasting joy shall be upon their head; they shall obtain gladness and joy and sorrow and mourning shall flee away.

III. We need Joy to attract the presence and power of God into our situation. Is 12: 3 – Therefore with joy shall ye draw water out of the wells of salvation.

IV. We need Joy to maintain healthy relationships. No one enjoys being around a constantly negative and unhappy person.

V. Joyful and positive people experience more favor, promotion, health and opportunities in life.

The importance of Joy in our lives cannot be over-emphasized. Below are Six proven strategies to maintain joy in your life always.

1.Make a firm decision up-front to maintain a joyful attitude: You are responsible for your reaction to everything in life. This was a difficult pill for me to swallow because I was in the habit of blaming others or my circumstances for the way I felt. All that changed when I discovered that, nothing in life holds any meaning except the meaning I give to it. This meant that I could be going through “hell” and yet choose to react positively. This truly changed my life. You too can DECIDE today to be joyful no matter what life throws at you.

2. Consciously choose positive thoughts and words: The way you feel at any point, is determined by the thoughts in your mind and the words you speak. Your subconscious mind relies on the pictures in your mind and the words you speak, to determine what to manifest in your life. If you constantly think of fearful and hurtful things and speak same, I guarantee that you will never feel joyful. Consciously choose your thoughts and words by replacing the negatives with positives. Avoid toxic people and places that tend to trigger negative feelings in you.

3.Use Faith-filled affirmations- One of the most powerful ways to reprogram yourself to stay joyful, is to declare the word of God out loud. I make a practice of standing in front of my mirror and speaking the word of God over my life. I declare words such as – “I am full of joy and peace”, ” The joy of the Lord is my strength”, “God is working out all things for my good”, to mention a few. Repeat this practice until you feel the words have taken root in you. You will be amazed at the transformation in your life.

Eat. Rest. Sleep – No matter how anointed you are, if you fail to take care of yourself by eating properly and resting, you will not feel great. Even God almighty rested on the seventh day! Taking good care of yourself, by eating healthy, exercising and drinking plenty of water will contribute to your well being.

5. Practice Gratitude: The human mind tends to dwell more on things which aren’t going so well, rather than those which are going well. We can break that cycle by developing an attitude of gratitude. Learn to be thankful for the seemingly little things in life such as fresh air, flowers, friends, family etc. Spend your first 5 minutes each day just being thankful to God for anything and everything. This is one of the most powerful ways to maintain joy in your life.

6.Spend time with God daily: This is the most important of all because where all else fails, God cannot fail. Spending time daily in prayers and study of the word of God restores joy and peace like nothing else can. It is impossible to experience true joy and satisfaction in our lives, without a relationship with God. You can imagine what happens to a branch that is cut off from a tree. It wont be long before the leaves on that branch wither and the branch dries up. This is exactly what happens when we are disconnected from our source – God. If you are yet to have a relationship with God, you can do so NOW by inviting Jesus christ into your life as your Lord and saviour. He will forgive your sins and fill you with his holy spirit. Only then will you experience joy unspeakable; full of glory!

God’s desire for us is to have joy to the full!

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God loves you!

5 ways to overcome ANY life challenge. (Including impact of COVID 19).

Life is comprised of series of challenges and difficulties. You are either experiencing one right now; have just come out of one, or will soon be experiencing one. What makes the difference however, is how we respond. We can either choose to respond with faith or with fear. We can either overcome the difficulty, or be overcome by it. Either way, the choice is ours. I will be sharing 5 proven principles, that guaratee victory in every situation. While it is important to pay attention to professional advice regarding contemporary and health issues, more important is what happens within us. It is crucial to develop within ourselves, those attitudes, behaviours and belief systems that enable us face lifes challenges with a “winning mentality”. Some people lose their battles even before it begins. For instance, many people will die from the fear of COVID 19, rather than the virus itself. Here they are:

Engage in spiritual exercise: While building your physical and mental muscles may have some benefits in difficult times, it is much more important to build your spiritual muscles. Spiritual activities such as praying in the spirit, bible study, fasting, obedience to the word are key in gaining victory over adverse circumstances. You must realise that you are a spirit and live in a body. If your spirit man is weak, your life is susceptible to attacks, but if your spirit man is strong you are capable of witstanding anything that comes against you.

Guard your heart: Faith comes by hearing but so does fear. Consciously choose what information you let into your heart. Dwelling on CNN (Um, I actualy mean, Constant Negative News, not the cable news network) for too long, only sets you up for destruction. Prov 4:23- ” Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life.

Eliminate negative thoughts: Thoughts are things. Negative thoughts have a tremendous impact on our lives. We clothe everything around us with our most dominant thoughts. Rather than dwell on thoughts of despair, failure, death and pain, we can replace them with positive and uplifting thoughts. This does not mean living in denial of the situation but rather choosing to shift our perspective and seeing it as a life lesson. Prov 23:7: For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.

Make positive confessions: Our words can either build us up or tear us down. In challenging times, locate bible scriptures that address your situation and declare them aloud in faith. In Genesis we are told of how God created the world with his words. As his children, made in his image, we also have the power to create what we want or don’t want with our words.

Choose to be Joyful, no matter what!: One of the most difficult things to do in difficult times is to stay joyful but that is exactly what you must do, if you desire God’s intervention. Understand that joy is actually a spiritual weapon that attracts supernatural attention and makes the devil mad. Just when he thinks he has you cornered ,you discomfit him with your singing dancing and excitement. Staying joyful in the midst of difficulties is the hallmark of overcomers and the panacea to depression, anxiety and stress.

Put these 5 principles to work and you will testify.

I would really like to know which of these principles resonated with you so please drop your comments below. Stay blessed!